Going Through A Tough Time - Proven Strategies that Help You Thrive

Going Through A Tough Time? Strategies that Will Help You Thrive

1. Stop just surviving and learn to thrive. Keep a strong, clear picture of your desired self and surrounding.Identify and break the cycle that keeps you constantly miserable, frustrated, poor or running in place.

2. Value your time above everything else and others will learn to value your time above all.  It's your most precious resource and is always diminishing. Until you learn to value you time, others can easily manipulate you (on purpose or not, doesn't matter) into spending your time on useless conversations, behaviors, habits, etc. In the end, learn to recognize patterns in your own behavior and the behavior of others to avoid wasting time on conversations that bring no useful, constructive effect to your life or the life of the other person/people.

3. Create good habits and get rid of bad ones. Keep a consistent (and consistently healthy) daily regimen.This is a really basic, but under-appreciated point, especially for young invincibles. A solid and consistent daily regimen will keep you in one piece through the lowest of the lows and the highest of the highs.  Here are 12 easy life-changing habits you can start today.

  • Sleep 7-8 hours a night, EVERY NIGHT.
  • Wake up early to take advantage of the most productive (morning) time.
  • Get up and stretch from your chair every hour.
  • Pack a healthy lunch and healthy snacks, eat less.
  • Take good care of your digestion, because if you don't, you'll be miserable too often to function well.
  • Walk around quickly as often as you can to get exercise.
  • Take the stairs, not the elevator, as much as you can.
  • Take good care of your hygiene, especially your teeth and skin.
  • Have close friends and family around.
  • Minimize (ideally, eliminate) the time you spend with people that add negativity (jealousy, envy, wasting of time, perpetuation of bad habits) and stress to your life.
  • Learn to control your impulses
  • Learn to say no to people. This is by far one of the most important skills and habits of all. Practice makes perfect.

4. Take good care of your mind.Find a highly recommended therapist with a sliding scale to help you dig through and unpack and throw away all the awful baggage from childhood that's holding you back from seeing yourself in a healthy way and moving forward with life and succeeding. Drop the stigma. Make no mistake - your mental health (or lack thereof) will make you or break you.

5. Eliminate negativity from your life as much as you can, day in and day out.  Be relentlessly positive, even while remaining a realist pragmatist. This means removing people that put you down or shower you with jealousy, envy and unproductive and unhealthy ways to spend time. Minimize listening to depressing music and watching depressing movies. Manipulate your mood for the better with music that lifts you up and keeps you moving forward.

6. Develop a negotiation mindset in all your dealings with people. Practice negotiating for cheaper coffee or fruits at the farmer's market, where you have nothing to lose. Research, understand and internalize your true value to employers, business partners, landlords and all others you deal with. Be confident about your capabilities and set your limits when you go in to negotiate. Come in with concrete and measurable facts about what you've done, on what budget and time frame, how much money and time you've saved the team and company. Practice with a coach or a no-holds-barred friend beforehand.

7. Connect to something higher than yourself through meditation and finding your roots (culture, religion, nationality, etc).Put yourself in a context where you feel connected to where you came from and who you are, so you will have the bedrock for growth in your personal life.

8. Practice gratitude daily, right after you wake up and before you go to sleep.Literally count your blessings each day. Say thanks as much as possible to others, especially your family and close friends (where would you be without them and their support?). Write thank you notes by hand to others to set yourself apart in their mind.

Adapted from an article by

Yuri Kruman

StayWell - Robin   

Robin Rose